Meeting in Poland on 23 and 24 January 2016
Questions and answers on the topic 'Things' (continuation)
Participant 1: On this meeting, we were told that when both spouses earn money, ideally each of them should buy his personal clothes. My husband and I live without division of the property, and our money is shared, we have a joint bank account. When we go shopping, my husband chooses some item for himself, and at the cashier, we pay with either card from our joint account.
Rositsa Avela: That is the best! In that case, where everything is shared, and all money is held in one place, that is considered to be a common family property. All the bills and everything else is paid from that fund, and each of the spouses works for the good of the family. In that case, it is regardless who pays. As the money is common, the spouses are an integral whole, and anything that is purchased for individual use is a personal property of each family member. That is the ideal option!
Participant 2: In my family situation is slightly more complicated. Each of us, my husband and I, has his own bank account. I earn a little money and sometimes my account without money, and my husband pays all the bills and purchases. I do the housekeeping at home. In that situation, if my husband buys something for my personal use does that becomes my property?
Rositsa Avela: Yes, if you do the housekeeping at home – cooking, washes, cleans…, but ideally your husband should buy to you everything willingly and with joy. If the situation is different and your heart suggests that it would be better for you to buy your things with your money, regardless of how small it is, to buy your personal belongings, then do so. That inner sense of yours means that for you that would be the right thing and when you use your items you would feel the best way.
There isn’t a standard advice, as each family is different. You were given quite detailed recommendations for the general situations, but everyone needs to assess what is the situation in his own family.
Participant 2: I have a question regarding our grown children – my son study to learn a profession and simultaneously works, but earns a little money. He accumulates the money for a driving course. In that situation, as we buy him everything that he needs, are these items his property?
Rositsa Avela: Yes, of course, they are his property, and of course you should buy him everything he needs if the money he earns is insufficient and the money that earns he accumulates for training. By working and saving his earnings for training, he also helps you, the parents. If something isn’t enough, you would add to it. His obligation is, however, to work in the family – to help in the housekeeping. The parents must help their children if they are without sufficient funds either until they reach the age of 28 years or until their marriage.
Participant 2: Another question – there is a new practice – when someone has a celebration instead of giving him an item as a gift, he is given vouchers of a certain shopping value in specific chain stores. What happens in that case? When we buy items with these donated vouchers are these items our personal property?
Rositsa Avela: The gift, the voucher, has a specific monetary value. In that case, a person needs to pay from his money the Divine tithes and Donation to God based on the value of the voucher and then he can do the shopping for the full value of the voucher safely. These vouchers are actually a monetary gift, and that is very good.
To be continued.